你有没有这种体验:明明知道危险已经过去了,脑子里也清清楚楚,但身体就是紧绷着,心跳加速,呼吸浅——理性完全失控于感受?
"The rational brain can know something is safe, but the emotional brain — where trauma lives — does not update on verbal instruction alone. It updates through experience."
van der Kolk 把大脑分为两套系统:一套负责逻辑、语言、时间感(前额叶);另一套负责威胁感知、生存反应、情绪印记(杏仁核+脑干)。创伤住在第二套里,不受第一套管辖。
"Being traumatized means continuing to organize your life as if the trauma were still going on — unchanged and immutable — as every new encounter or event is contaminated by the past."
理解这一点,对自己和对他人都会更有耐心一点。道理不是解药,经历才是。