创伤研究者 Bessel van der Kolk 在书中专门讨论了"社交参与系统"——人类神经系统里专门用来感知他人、被他人感知的那一部分。
"Being truly heard and seen by the people around us, feeling that we are held in someone's mind and heart, is highly arousing. It is also profoundly calming — activating the deepest satisfaction circuits of our mammalian brain."
"Social support is not the same as merely being in the presence of others. The critical issue is reciprocity: being truly heard and seen by the people around us."
神经科学家 Stephen Porges 的"多层迷走神经理论"说：人类有一条专门负责社交联结的神经通路，它能通过他人的面部表情、声调、眼神来调节自己的心跳和呼吸。治愈的前提，是让这条通路重新上线。
被看见不是奢侈品，是基础设施。