创伤幸存者往往是对自己最凶的人。那个不停说"你不够好、你太脆弱、你活该倒霉"的声音，不是真相——它是内化了的旧伤，是某个曾经伤害过你的人的声音，被你变成了自己的声音。
"Many of my patients are blessed with a fierce inner critic who has kept them going through catastrophe, but who now turns all that energy against them — berating them for feeling, for needing, for being human."
这个描述很准：那个"内在批评者"最初是个保护机制。它帮你撑过了糟糕的时期——用严苛逼你不停往前走。但危机过去之后，它不知道怎么关掉，反手就开始攻击你的感受本身。
"Self-loathing is particularly insidious because it comes from within — it's not perceived as something inflicted by an outside agency, but as an accurate reflection of one's nature."
外来的批评你还可以反驳，内在的批评你默认它是真的。治愈的一部分，就是慢慢学会辨认：这个声音，是我的，还是某个人的幽灵？它值得被问一句：你凭什么这么说我？