谈话治疗为什么不够——以及身体为什么必须参与
我们习惯用语言解决情绪问题：说出来，分析它，理解它，放下它。但 van der Kolk 在书中直接戳破了这个幻觉。
"We have learned that trauma is not just an event that took place sometime in the past; it is also the imprint left by that experience on mind, brain, and body."
Broca 区是大脑负责语言表达的区域。研究发现，当创伤记忆被激活时，Broca 区会近乎关闭——这就是为什么人在极度恐惧或崩溃时"说不出话来"，不是不想说，是字面意义上的失语。
"Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives."
这是对"想开点就好了"最彻底的反驳：不是当事人不够努力，而是语言这条路根本走不到那里。