我们以为创伤是"过去的事",但 Bessel van der Kolk 说,不对——创伤从未真正过去,它一直活在当下,住在身体里,随时等着被触发。
"Trauma is not just an event that took place sometime in the past; it is also the imprint left by that experience on mind, brain, and body."
"As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself."
治愈的第一步不是"想开",而是让身体知道:那件事已经结束了,你现在是安全的。