我们都听过"战或逃"，但 Bessel van der Kolk 提醒我们，还有第三条路：冻结。当逃无可逃、打又打不过，身体会选择关机。
"When neither fight nor flight is possible, the organism may go into a freeze response—immobility, the 'freeze' of the deer in the headlights. Under those circumstances people may feel paralyzed, shut down, and unable to think or act."
"Dissociation is the essence of trauma. The overwhelming experience is split off and fragmented, so that the emotions, sounds, images, thoughts, and physical sensations related to the trauma take on a life of their own."
冻结不是选择，是幸存。但幸存之后，要学会解冻。