创伤研究走了很多弯路——药物、认知重构、暴露疗法。但 van der Kolk 最终把箭头指向了一个更朴素的地方：你身边有没有真正安全的人？
"Being able to feel safe with other people is probably the single most important aspect of mental health; safe connections are fundamental to meaningful and satisfying lives." — Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score, Chapter 6
"Trauma is not just an event that took place sometime in the past; it is also the imprint left by that experience on mind, brain, and body." — Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score, Chapter 1
孤独不只是心理感受，它让神经系统持续处于警戒状态。治愈，往往从"有人陪着"开始。